It is more than likely that when you have been to the doctor or to a place where there are many people waiting, you will see children with technology in their hands. Mothers who look at their mobile and children who also look at theirs
Bored kids who don’t play
Sounds sad, right? But it is a reality. Parents are hyper-busy all day, and when they have some time, they spend more time looking at mobile screens. This causes children to get bored and become hyper-bored children who do not know what else to do to get their parents’ attention and spend more real (and quality) time with them.
At present, it seems that children are losing interest in playing with their peers, who have grown tired of attracting the attention of their parents to play with them. Now they say very often that they are bored so that their parents satisfy that “boredom” with screens. Today’s children hardly play like children; they have less patience, less tolerance for frustration, and much more impulsive behaviors.
Busy parents, bored kids
Children are growing up alone, in front of screens, as if technology were a virtual kangaroo. Although this is not a subject that can be generalized, it is true that it is notable that in many families children spend a lot of time in front of screens instead of spending that time playing, enhancing their imagination, or spending quality time with their parents. Screens put your mind to sleep, and it’s something for parents to ponder.
If a child gets bored or has a tantrum, they can’t be given technology! It doesn’t matter how old you are. To do so is to get rid of the responsibility we have as parents to accompany and attend to the important emotional needs of our children in their childhood.
Your children need you.
Your children don’t need screens in their hands to be well; they need you. Young children are sensitive to the reactions of their parents and the interactions they have in the environment where they live. They look to their parents to learn from them, and any gesture they make is significant. What will your 3- or 4-year-old son learn if he always sees you looking at the screen of your mobile or your computer?
Your children need to connect with you in the deepest way. Do not wait for your children to calm down on their own; you have to look them in the eye, hug them and leave your mobile completely away. If you don’t, you will be doing them irreparable emotional damage. Now you may not realize it, but with the passage of time, you will have a child disconnected from the family and even from himself.
Disconnect to connect
In the society in which we live we want to connect with people but it seems that it is increasingly difficult … the more informed and connected we are, the more we disconnect from our environment. Technology makes it difficult for us, and it is necessary to work on communication and the human approach for that to change.
If your children call you, look them in the eye, when they want to play with you, put your phone aside and simply: play. They are basic things that must be done every day so that there are no serious emotional and behavioral consequences in the future.
That your children do not feel alone
There is a great epidemic of childhood loneliness where children feel lonely. Although it is true that parents must work and will be busy most of the day because bills have to be paid, quality family time should also be promoted.
Create a daily connection space with your children so that they realize that you are by their side whenever they need them. Although sometimes you also need to rest, show your children that if they need you, you will leave the phone parked. They are the most important thing to you. Don’t let your children feel alone or let a virtual babysitter take care of them.